19 Years - Part 3

You can read part 1 here and part 2 here. I have to apologize for not posting this last year. It's been sitting in my draft folder for quite some time. The reason why I have not posted this part is because I don't know if I should end my story here or continue and write about this other guy I dated many years later. I still have not decided if ever I'm going to write the rest since that would be like reliving a not so happy part of my life but I promised that I will at least write part 3, so here it is.

I just got home from school that day (I was taking extra courses in San Francisco) when the phone rang. It was my brother calling from the Philippines. He said that J has been in a terrible car accident. I thought "OMG!" I asked him what happened and my brother proceeded to tell me the details. After learning what happened, my first thought was 'How can he be so stupid?!' Apparently, J was out drinking with his friends and on the way home, he was drag racing with his friend along EDSA, somewhere around Crossing. The car hit the wall of the underpass and was totaled. I don't know how long he was in the hospital and what the extent of his injuries were. You would think that this brought us back together, but it didn't. I didn't call him or sent him a card. I knew that when I broke up with him, it needs to be final with no communication at all, so I stood my ground. It was hard but it had to be done. If I reached out to him during that time, I would probably be pulled back in. I went on with my new life here in the US and did not even went back to the Philippines for a vacation.

I learned years later that J married someone who looks a lot like me. A neighbor saw them walking and she thought that it was me and J. (Altogether now "awwww". LOL) I think of him sometimes and wonder how he's doing. I hear about him from my mom since she's friends with Tita R (his mom). My aunt even stayed in J's house when she and her friends went to Orlando. Yes, he lives in the same country now. (here's the part where you say "Ooohhhh" LOL) From what I've heard, his wife is the nagger type and I feel bad for him. As for me, I am blessed with a wonderful husband so I did choose the right path.

What would I say if ever I see him? I don't know, maybe "I'm sorry. I hope you're as happy as I am."? What do you say in times like this? Have you ever been in a situation where you come across an ex many years later? What happened?


  1. ah nakaka loka bitin pa rin! hehehe...

  2. @Carlota
    LOL Well the story with J ends here. :o) I don't know if I'm going to write about the BF that I met years later. This was my one and only heartbreak and it'll be like reliving it over again.

  3. i've been waiting for the continuation of your love story, hehe. nice post. it seems like a novel. :)

  4. Yup I saw my ex-bf (for 7 years) at the wake of one of our common dear friends and we were just civil. We didn't part on good terms because he dumped me for another girl who dumped him later on. Then he tried to win me back, but no way Jose! Then he married someone 12 years or so his junior, and his life was hell. At the wake, I had a head's up from our barkadas about how his life had been, he looked so different, older for his age, very unhappy. While I was glowing with happiness from my then bf, now my hb! I am very thankful I didn't end up with the guy, I was blindly in love with him, I was miserable and yet we lasted 7 years! I should have been executed in Luneta, LOL.

  5. Sis, Finally!I have been waiting for the continuation of this saga since last year. Bilib rin naman ako sa tatag mo Sis! No calls whatsoever!

    Alam mo ba Sis, I was expecting sa Part 3 na J died in that accident. Sorry talaga, ang sama ko! Good thing he made it. I'm just happy for you that you got a good husband. I wish your ex will find happiness the same way as yours.

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    Enjoy the rest of the weekend!

  6. I really don't know, never been in a relationship before lol. :\

  7. I saw mine when he come and visit our neighbor in 2001 and tell my sister that he still love me, and I'm still look pretty even I have a kid, we never really have a formal break up before because he was corner by other woman and married to her. We have been dating for 3 years while I was still in college. I was hurt broken back then, but his family and I still in good friend. His a great man and I still ride his motorcycle when he pass by in our town when I am on the way to school because he still stop and offer to give me a ride and it happen that I was assigned in their town for student teaching. Everyday he pass by in the school and wait for me to give me a ride home because it's only 10 minutes away where I lived. His younger sister always bring me some snack and even asking my photo. Well, it's a long story, but I never forget him because
    He is actually my first love and first bf, but I never have communication with him although he still talking to my sister, He married to a nagger wife.

  8. Babette, I've waited 19 years for this part 3!! LOL! Wow! Sounds like it can be made into a major motion picture of epic proportions! LOL!

    Regarding meeting back with ex, not many like to meet back again. For me, I have been friends with my ex ever since we broke up. Yes, cos we broke up mutually : )

  9. Whoa! I heard of regular drunk driving but drunk drag racing? Wheeeew :O You not sending him a card while in hospital must have crushed him, but it had to be done.

    If I seen an ex years later that I really cared about / loved, I would ask the ex if she is living a good life and not dealing with a loser :D

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